GETTING OVER HEART-BREAKS


ARE YOU HEART-BROKEN?


Have you experienced Heart-break and are yet to find Healing?



 I must admit that Heart-break is real if you have once Loved and the relationship ended abruptly. But guess what you can be healed, i mean total Healing.

Below are few and Proven tips to help you get out of that Heart-Breaks.


  Before reading through this article you must be ready to let go of the affection for your EX which is achievable with  determination and discipline and readiness for the new phase of life.
Remember"life is in phases and Men are in sizes, every phase in Life prepares you for the next".

 Below are the few steps that will guide you out of this emotional disarray.

1. Make sure you experience Healing in Gods Presence.
Since God is the creator of the heart he knows how best to Heal it, other prescriptions are just trial, you can achieve this healing by developing an intimate relationship with your creator if you have not, and learn to communicate with him. Pour out your heart to him, don't pretend in his presence be sincere, cry if you feel like, crying is not an indication of weakness it just a way of  revealing your emotions.

2. Get Motivated, Be inspired.
 Spend quality time in God's presence, get distracted, fellowship with other Believers, Hangout with friends that will add value to your life, get yourself involve in activities that will help get you motivated.

3. Learn to Forgive.
This is one of the difficult but important stages in getting over heart-breaks, for you to assess if you are healed, you must forgive your Ex which can be achieved by Praying for Him/Her, not seeing them as a betrayer but someones whose life path has changed from yours.
Accepting this differences will help get you through this phase of life.

4. Build your self esteem.
please note that you having a Break up with someone does not mean you are incapable, it only suggest your view of life has changed and you need to pathways which was done at the detriment of your emotional well-being.

5. Develop yourself.
When you are healed enough and you begin to sense God stirring your heart in the direction of a relationship do an objective review of your life.
Ask yourself this question without sentiments" the way your life is(your attitude,your spiritual status and maturity, your lifestyle and everything you know about yourself) would you marry you? meaning knowing all the things you know about yourself do you think you are good enough for a relationship if you are to choose someone exactly like you?
The thought of this will change your view of life and your choice of a partner, it will divert your focus from looking for the right person to being the right person which will help motivate you to be selfless and self motivated.

6. Begin to work on your weak areas.
Having assessed yourself with the question in No. 5  which i believe have helped you discovered your self and what you need to change about yourself, don't procrastinate, get to work immediately.
But please don't try to prove any point to your EX because this motive will change your focus from developing yourself for future relationship to developing yourself just to prove a point which is inspired be retaliation. "never leave your life trying to get back at someone, it is not worth it''.

7. Begin a new relationship. 
Now that you have experienced Healing, you can now move on and begin a fresh Relationship, Note that having a feeling for someone does not guarantee that person right for you, having feeling for a person can be triggered by having the same view of something,meeting up an expectation or certain standard you have set for yourself.
Evaluate the person by Prayer and review your Standard.
"God will not give you a finished product but a raw material'' You can not have a perfect partner, there is always something to disagree on, so let your standard be flexible enough and give your partner some time and support to adjust to your taste and also learn to adapt to some of the changes that cannot be changed. Allow your partner to be real and you will enjoy your relationship.

Have in mind that all these cannot be achieved instantaneously, it requires patience, genuine determination and self discipline.
I wish you a heavenly Experience in your relationship.
 


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